We All Deserve Happiness
- July 29, 2016
- Posted by: Craig Chamberlin
- Category: Blog
Some days I ask myself why I put up with my own moods. Today was one of those days. As I head off to vacation my emotions are up and down. On one side I am excited, on the other I am defensive.
I’ve noticed that my defensive nature is at constant battle with my contentment. The moment I start to enjoy something, such as an exciting trip out of town, there is a part of me that says “Wait Craig, don’t get too excited… What if it doesn’t go well? What if something bad happens?” Instantly I shut off the excitement valve. After all, if I allow myself to get excited then I open myself up for disappointment.
This is unhealthy of course. My mind knows that realistically things can go either way and it makes no sense to assume bad instead of good. Which brings me to my point. We al deserve happiness. What I’m not saying is we all deserve happiness. What I’m saying is we all deserve to let ourselves be vulnerable. To let ourselves get excited. To open ourselves to the risks of this world. When we shut off those doors we love a dreary, depressed life. Believe me, I know, I’m there more than I’d like to admit.
The best we can do is be aware of it. Nobody likes to be the pessimist, but at different stages of our lives pessimism seems to reign. For the first time in my life I need to make a conscious effort to be an optimist, it’s not coming naturally.
I believe the optimist in my simply refuses to accept that I have no control over what happens. That lack of control freaks me out. Therefore I assume everything is going to badly. So I must always be diligent in order to ensure I prevent something bad from happening. Pretty arrogant for me to believe I can prevent all bad things from happening. It’s also an unrealistic expectation and burden to place on myself.
Let it go Craig, let it go. Gods in control, not you. Trust him.